5.) Social media is an amazing way to reunite with old friends. Describe a good or not-so-good experience you’ve had with it.
I had a friend once.
We met in high school and were instantly inseparable. She was a life changing friend. Instrumental in why I am who I am today. I went through a rough patch of anger and probably borderline depression in my early teens. My mom was worried. I was not enjoyable to be around. I felt misunderstood and sad.
But my friend made me laugh. She gave me a platform for a sense of humor I barely knew existed. She got me. She was the first, and possibly only person in my life who asked about my pain without apology. Why was I sad? Who did I miss? What was I thinking?
And when I answered, she listened. And cried.
It was the healing I needed. My mom wonders now if we should have had some kind of counseling after my Dad died. Kids are tricky because you just don’t know what is going on in their heads. You don’t know what kind of pain is trapped there until they become teens you worry about. Writing about my Dad from a very early age was a kind of therapy for me. It helped. My friend read my writing and gave me the validation and empathy I needed to begin to heal.
My friend and I spent every day together which can be a good thing and maybe not such a good thing at the same time. On one hand we watched movies and made pizza and sang our favorite songs. But I soon felt confined. I needed to breathe. I needed to sing my songs with my other friends too. They were hurt. I had all but deserted them. I gave them no reason to continue standing by me.
But my friend was sad. She didn’t want things to change. She wanted to keep watching movies and making pizza and singing favorite songs. She didn’t want to spend time with other friends. I got angry. And we fought and argued and hurt each others feelings before I got fed up. And stopped calling.
She tried to fix things, but I had made up my mind. I had to sacrifice her friendship to maintain any others. She was key in helping me embrace who I was and I had to let her go to continue being who I was.
We went our separate ways and we rarely saw or heard from one another. I was overwhelmed by the guilt of leaving her like that. I thought about her often. I felt horrible for hurting her.
Years later I reached out to her. All hail the beauty of social media. I jumped on the opportunity to apologize for ending our friendship the way I did. She seemed surprised at my guilt. She assured me she was happy and that it was not something she agonized over now at thirty years old. I was relieved, but still felt a nagging sense of unresolved hurt.
Could we talk? Could we get coffee? Could we get away from the constraints of online messaging and connect on a more personal level?
The answer she gave me was no.
She had no loose ends to tie up. She had no reason to talk about the past. She had no hard feelings. She was thirty years old now and had moved on in life and was happy.
Too old to be bothered with our long ago teenage fight.
I felt silly reading her response. Silly for still having loose ends. Silly for wanting to talk.
Silly.
Because there I was, nearly 30 myself, and still bothered by our teenage fight.
I had a friend once.
We haven’t spoken since that message exchange. I never responded. I did not expect a refusal to my request to meet up and talk. It occurred to me, that if someone…anyone…were to request a meeting with me that could lead to closure for them, I would do that for them. Even if I felt it would do me no good. As a friend, I would do that for them.
When she could not offer me that token of friendship I realized that with all the beauty of technology today, and the ability to find and fix relationships damaged in the past, it is not always an effective tool. And that sometimes things are better left alone. Sometimes people are better left alone. I should have left her alone.
I’m grateful for the role she once played in my life. I’m grateful I had someone who cared and listened and wanted me to be happy during a pivotal time in my life. She was invaluable to me. Perhaps she served her purpose.
And that is enough.
***
Erin says
I had an ex contact me through facebook and I was annoyed yet flatter that he even looked me up!
I hate conflicting feelings like that! haha
the undomestic housewife says
That’s sad that she refused your offer to have coffee.. I agree with you, that as a friend (even a past friend) there were so many reasons for her to say yes, even though she may not have had any loose ends. At least you can appreciate her friendship for what it once was, and accept that it is in the past. It’s sad that sometimes it has to be that way. I had a friend like that too.
Marcy Massura says
Okay you totally get that the fact she didn’t meet with you, means she clearly STILL has an issue with you. Which well, now is HER PROBLEM. You grew up. Matured. And tried to fix the issue. She refused. Now she can carry that around. And you can let it go.
If you called me to meet to help you bury a body I would go. For a friend. Naturally.
mjrodriguez says
Great post! Brings back memories of an old friend of mine as well. We are now in contact on Facebook (not often) although neither has brought up the subject of having coffee. And it’s fine that way for us. :-)
Ashley says
Great post! Love the pictures.
Karen and Gerard says
Perhaps she wasn’t as hurt as you thought. It was good of you though to look her up and apologize just to get it off your conscience. Some people just don’t want to bother with old friendships from high school years later. I sure wouldn’t let it get to me. God brings people in our lives along the way for a certain purpose sometimes. It seems to me that this is a perfect example of that.
Gigi says
What’s that saying that’s been around the internet forever? Something about how people are brought into your life for a reason and then they are gone? That’s exactly what this post made me think about.
But, yeah she should have met you for coffee.
Jayne says
I have to say, I agree with the people who said that it seems as though she does stil have unresolved issues about it all, maybe she just doesn’t want to lose face by admitting that she’s still hurt, all these years later. Otherwise, surely she’d be happy to meet up with you? I don’t know, but it seems fishy to me.
Jen says
I had the same thing happen to me when I reached out to a friend. She never responded.
I guess she didn’t want to relive the past either.
At least now, we have knew friends.
Dumb mom says
I’d meet you for coffee. I can’t say I’ve had any experiences with old friends or ex-flame. Not real ones anyway. I did find out a boy I liked in high school lives in the same town as me now & we’ve seen him and his family a few times. That’s pretty awesome because we went to hs in Germany and now we live in a small town!
Mama Kat says
You went to high school in Germany!?! How did I not know this about you? And when should we meet for coffee? I’m thinking we can meet in the middle…say…Minnesota?
Aunt Bethany says
Oh, Mama…you took the high road on this one. You admitted a fall out not handled completely well, and you offered your apologies on it. Your “friend” is the one missing out here. If someone, after an apology and an offer to meet up for coffee, still turns you down, then you are going to be better off without that meeting. So, take the time you would have met her, and go to coffee with a friend that is currently in your life…someone you cherish.
So often we try to “fix” the relationships in our lives that aren’t 100%, and forget to champion the ones that are 150%. I know I sometimes forget to thank my real friends when I get caught up worrying about people who don’t like me or have a reason to be mad at me. This is my goal for the new year: be a better friend to my real friends.
Great response! I chose the love poem to food…ode to a stale cookie! Had tons of fun this week with the prompts!
Mama Kat says
Great comment! You couldn’t be more right. Thank you!
Ginny Marie @ Lemon Drop Pie says
Ah, social media…we love it, but sometimes it’s not all it’s cracked up to be! I thought reconnecting with my old college roommates on facebook would be so awesome, but we’ve never done anything but send a couple of messages back and forth. Of course, living across the country from each other doesn’t help!
Amethyst Moon says
beautiful post! and, by the way, I’d meet you for coffee anytime :)
Paula Kiger says
You know, I consider it one of my biggest values that I “stay friends” with everyone. Not that I had strings of significant others over the years, but I have remained in contact with all but one, and social media has played a part.
I “friend requested” him back when I first started down Facebook Road. Nothing. I tried later and his name was grayed out, meaning I was blocked I think. Still later it still says “friend requested”. I NEED TO GIVE UP!! I can understand why he doesn’t feel the need to subject himself to my constant string of Facebook updates – how I’m exercising, what I’m reading, who I am hanging with. I get it but it still makes me sad.
Thank you for sharing this – and I love the textures you used in the pictures (or however you did that!!).
Jill says
It reminds me of that saying. How does it go? Friends are for a reason, or a season, or a lifetime… something like that.
Carrie says
My husband had a girl contact him through Facebook. He “went out” with her in grade 8 or something. She asked him,
“Why did we break up?”
Seriously. At that point he realized Facebook was a complete waste of his time and deleted his account ;)
Mama Kat says
Haha! An 8th grade break up…man us girls hang on to everything!!
…sooo…why DID they break up? ;)
Jenn says
At first I thought Facebook was great, but I have found that it has brought so much unnecessary drama back into my life and then I remembered why I wasn’t friends with most of these people any more. Great post and I can relate to the unfinished buisness. I hope that her answer has given you the closure that you needed.
SaucyB says
That’s so sad. I think i’m with you, if a former friend wanted to meet up with me, I can’t imagine saying no.
Dawn says
Wow, I’m surprised she totally rejected any kind of connection. What an interesting story. Thank you for sharing.
S Club Mama says
Sounds like my friendship with my high school best friend. We never had an argument but we just drifted when I went away to college (no cell phone back then so I never called anyone back home). I called her just before our second son was born…it was awkward and I’ve never called again.
Claire says
This is beautifully written. Funnily enough, very similar to what I wrote about today. It’s hard to let go of that guilt. I still struggle with that.
Mrs.Mayhem says
The fact that she refused to meet you says a lot about her state of mind. It’s a shame she wasn’t more open.
Jessica says
How heartbreaking. I think by her response she IS still bothered by it and ironically maybe not yet ready to forgive?? Social media can be an awesome tool for reconnecting, but it certainly doesn’t replace meeting IRL. Thanks for sharing! (Great pics, too!)
Holly @ Diamond Potential says
I had a hard time between 1, 3, & 5.
Because of individuals that would likely read, I chose #1. Even that want brought tears to my eyes…
Your friend could have at least had lunch…
The friend I reconnected with through fb turned into a bit of a nightmare. Even from 800 miles away she wanted to take over… UGH! We had set up a private blog to play catch up. She was writing novels every day and expected me to read, respond, and post something as detailed! I did not need to read a log of what she’s doing every minute of the day or when she has her “time of month”, etc…
She invited herself to visit and stay at my house at a time she knew I was busy with photography editing for clients on a deadline and expected me to drop everything (even to the neglect of my family…) to be at her full disposal.
She’s judgmental of my weight, health and bipolar issues. She doesn’t try to learn more to understand… just judge… She was offended when I told her how I feel… even to the point to tell me that I “hurt”her by calling her judgmental… I have reduced to short responses on fb. *sigh* She can’t accept that my husband, kids, grandkids, work and religion will always come first and I DO have other friends… and if we don’t even talk for months or years… when we reconnect it’s a joyous experience and we’re happy to play catch-up…
Amy says
This is a great post and in the end, you came up with the same conclusion that I did from reading it. People…it takes all kinds, I guess!
Texan Mama says
This is just my gut feeling, but I do believe that she actually isn’t over the hurt you might have caused her. If she was, she wouldn’t mind meeting you for coffee, for exactly the reasons you spelled out.
Unless of course, you had bad breath back in high school and she remembers it. She might be afraid you’ll breathe on her when you meet up. I mean, I love ya Kat but if you had bad breath I might take a rain check for coffee too.
:-P
Mama Kat says
You couldn’t be more right.
I brush my teeth regularly now.
Angel says
I think this can best be summed up in the words of a wise woman named Madea.. People in our lives are like trees. Some people are the leaves and are only there for a season to provide beauty and shade in the times of life when we are walking through hell. Some are branches, they look strong and often are with us through rough patches and also the good, but when forced to bear a lot of burden they snap and break and are gone. We are blessed in life to have friends who are like the roots of the tree. They hide in the shadows of our lives, always there, always present, always ready to support us regardless of whether or not they agree with our plans. They don’t haev to be in the limelight, they don’t need constant recognition. They are simply there and are all we ever need for our life.
I think for you this friend was a leaf. She accomplished her purpose in your life and when it was time for her to go it was over. I am sorry you feel like lines were left open and she really should have given you that closure you needed. I think you need to forgive yourself now, you did not know then she was a season friend.
Mommylisa says
I love that you wrote this, but now my haiku seems silly.
Did it help to write this post? Do you feel less guilty, or sad, about it? I think you did the right thing maintaining multiple freindships.
Mama Kat says
You know it really does feel better to write it down! I’m glad I did.
Teresa says
It’s okay to move on without regret…for both of you. I can’t say that I would want to have a cup of coffee and talk about an unpleasant situation. I would embrace coffee and conversation about the good and positive things happening now though.
I enjoyed reading your thoughts. Always provoking!
Jennifer says
I understand this completely. I have a friend that was the same for me and I’ve tried to find her a few times to reconnect, but I haven’t been able to. Part of me realizes that she doesn’t want to be found. She doesn’t want that old life. I’m sure she has a new life and is very happy. And I think that is great. But I still miss her.
Los says
Sounds like at the time, she was looked at as “nerdy” by the other clique(s) you hung out with … and that may be why you felt “smothered” by her, because you may have wanted to keep your “status” in school … just an observation. Maybe that’s where the guilt came from?
Mama Kat says
I love your analysis Los! Imagining her as the “nerdy” type is funny…but no…she wasn’t at all. We’re both homebody types and literally just liked hanging out with each other.
Miss Angie says
What an amazing post. I’d like to think that I would do that as well, meet up with someone to tie up loose ends. You are an amazing person, don’t ever forget that!
Chrysti H says
Mmm… Thanks for sharing. I think a lot of us relate. Or at least I can.
Jen says
I am the queen of holding on to relationships too long. Sometimes, like you say, a certain friendship is exactly what you need for the moment, but it doesn’t work forever. I’m sorry your friend didn’t want to chat. She may have felt sad and lonely during that time as well, and you did for her what she did for you. For some reason, she doesn’t want to go back there.
Christy @ cat fur to make kitten britches says
I have a very similar friendship story from my own past, so I can very much relate to this post. Your photos capture the melancholy feeling of your story perfectly. Thanks for sharing, and I hope that you will be able to release yourself from the guilt and sadness of a time long ago.
Best to you ~
Christy
T says
beautifully expressed…
finally – at our 20 year reunion I was able to utter the “I’m sorry” that I should have said our senior year… and whether or not it made sense to either of us… I feel better ;)
Janelle says
….makes me sad…and makes me wonder. But I think I know who you are talking about. It’s still so interesting to read about your high school years when I thought you were a well adjusted happy teenager. Love to you!
Mama Kat says
Oh Janelle, you know full well who I’m talking about!! Haha! It is interesting to hear other people’s perspective though isn’t it!?! I was happy by the time I got to high school…Sophomore year, when I made all the friends I have now, was a huge turning point for me.
Jenn @ South of Sheridan says
A few years ago, I came across the myspace profile of a girl that rode the same bus. She’s now my best friend, and I am so grateful to have given our friendship the chance to grow. I’m sad to hear that the friend from your past couldn’t do the same, but it seems you’ve made peace with her decision.
But I agree, if someone from high school asked me to meet up for coffee to talk, because they felt guilty about a fight, no matter how insignificant it was, I would have been flattered. It takes a lot to approach someone with an apology.
Mama Kat says
I love that Jenn!! Social media is just an amazing resource to us!
Alex@LateEnough says
I had a friend reach out to apologize for the way she ended our friendship. And I was willing to listen on the phone but unwilling to meet her. It wasn’t that I was still very angry or hurt, I was just really busy at the time with a new baby and my husband was working 60-80 hours/week so time away was difficult to come by. And honestly, I didn’t want to use my time away to sit down to coffee with her — I wanted to sit down to coffee with my current friends or by myself because I could only do it maybe once a month.
I’ve often looked back and felt badly because I’m sure sitting down with me would’ve helped her more than talking on the phone, but it seems misplaced to offer it now so many years later.
Mama Kat says
I love your perspective!! I’m sure this is exactly what my friend was thinking, “you know, I’m cool and over this. I’m happy now. Let’s just let the past be the past”. It makes sense, but yes, for me…I needed the talk.
Whatever I’m TOTALLY OVER IT!! ;)
Nicole @ Moments that Define Life says
What a touching post. One of the things that I have begun to realize is that as we grow older, we do change, grow, evolve. Unfortunately, it does sometimes mean that to grow, we have to move on from people who aren’t ready to grow with us. While I can understand her hurt, I too would have been willing to meet for that closure. But, I too hold onto things from my teen years. It’s amazing just how much it stays with us. You weren’t wrong for wanting that closure and I’m sorry to hear that she would not give you that. It’s great that you can give her credit for the role she played in your life. And now, (not that my opinion matters), it’s ok to let her go and know that you did what you could to resolve the past. HUGS!
Cheryl @ Mommypants says
That makes me so sad. I think for sure she’s still sad about it and doesn’t want to go there. And I know about feeling bad about things that happened years ago, and trying to reach out, and realizing the other person isn’t interested.
Hugs to you..
Shannon {Discipline Project} says
This is a wonderful post. I’ve thought about reaching out to a couple ppl that I had issues with when younger, but in the end decided to leave it alone. It’s hard to feel you’re hanging on to something and the other person doesn’t give a rats ass. (Although I suspect she DOES, but doesn’t want to let you know it. Or doesn’t want to revisit it.)
Mama Kat says
Thanks! I feel like me bringing it all up was just stirring things up that she had let go and didn’t need stirred up again.
Jennifer says
A touching post! Perhaps she was hurt and did get over the end of your friendship. Maybe she was afraid that if you both reconnected, her old feelings would only resurface, and she didn’t want to risk getting hurt again.
Just trying to play devil’s advocate. I would’ve met you for coffee, too. ;)
Mama Kat says
Nope, you might be spot on. I’m not sure what I thought was going to happen…we talk and then what? We start hanging out? We become best friends again? Where was I going with that? We live very different lives now so it’s not like we were just going to start chatting away everyday. It’s probably best it ended the way it did…though I still miss her from time to time.
The Drama Mama says
I am having an unusual bout of writers block because NONE of these are speaking to me (and you even have the poetry here for FOOD, 2 of my favorite things.) I’m going to keep thinking about and come back and link up later, but I wanted to say that your post is beautiful. I can feel your sense of longing and nostalgia, and it takes me back to my own memories of childhood and best friends who have since gone on their separate ways.
The Drama Mama says
Ok, I got inspired. ;)
Booyah's Momma says
There are lots of things I look back on that I said or did in high school, and feel a sense of remorse for. It’s awesome that you reached out and tried to reconnect… even if it wasn’t reciprocated. I think it’s the things we *don’t* do in life that we end up regretting the most.
Share says
For reasons just like this social media has lost it’s appeal to me.
C.Mom says
Been there– on both ends. And I tend to think that maybe she hasn’t really gotten over it herself. Sometimes it is harder to dig up old Wounds than to give someone else closure.
Kathy Morelli, LPC says
Wow loved this post. We are all so different in high school (or so I hope!). Maybe she just didnt want to dredge up the person she was, sort of needy. Jr hs &hs ppl often have same sex intense relationships, then move on to branch out to other friends and choosing life partners…
maybe she didnt want to revisit that time…hs was a trying time for me. I like to forget it!
Becky says
This was a really thought-provoking post. Like many others, I think she still has residual feelings. I can’t imagine it’s possible to have such a complete lack of engagement with a past friend, either positive or negative. Humans are too complex to just move on from something and never look back. At least, that’s what I think.
The post made me think about my best friend in junior high. We were devoted friends for about a year and a half, and then one day in 8th grade, she had to abruptly and unexpectedly move away because of family issues. I was home sick the day she left, so I didn’t get a chance to say goodbye or know anything about her departure when I arrived for school the next day until I found the note she had stuffed in my locker, saying goodbye and telling me to never forget her. I never did. I even kept the note. But we didn’t get to speak to each other or see each other again.
Then, one day, quite a few years ago, before Facebook and MySpace became huge, I tracked her down. I even found an email address. So I emailed her. Her response was friendly and kind… but she said that part of her life was traumatic and she barely remembers it.
As her note had asked, I never forgot her. But, somewhere along the way, she forgot me.
Mama Kat says
That is heartbreaking! But exactly how we work right? Friends are our whole world in middle school and high school. It’s no wonder they leave such an impact. And what a memory for you! You need to copy and paste that into it’s own blog post!!
Tonya says
Thank you for sharing this. I hope writing it made you feel better. Friendships are so hard sometimes, especially when our lives start going in different directions. People change and they don’t often change back. {hugs}
Rachael (Tales from the Village) says
What a lovely, thought provoking post. I too have lost friends along the way, and found them through social networking. In a few cases, it has been bliss – we’ve picked up the threads of a friendship that was lost because of time, and distance, and just being a bit rubbish about keeping in touch. Lots of times, though, it has proved that there’s kind of nothing left to say. I’ve tied up a few loose ends, and had a few left hanging just like you. This funny world we live in. It’s interesting, isn’t it?
Mama Kat says
Yes! I’ve definitely had some great experiences. Though more often than not the people I lost touch with I still don’t talk much with online.
Samantha says
I think that you were very brave to contact her again. I’m sorry she didn’t reciprocate. People change. We live, we learn, we move on …
Queen Bee says
That was a great post about friends and social media. There are sometimes friends in our life for a season and sometimes it is best to leave it alone, although until some of the recent social media we wouldn’t even think of connecting with them. I’m sorry that she didn’t let you close the door on those feelings but as least you now know!
erica says
Your story reminded me of Freaks and Geeks. You didn’t want to be a mathlete… You are empathetic, and it’s only natural to hold on to those feelings, you know?
Mama Kat says
I’ve never heard of Freaks and Geeks…is that a movie? The thought of her as either a freak or a geek is pretty entertaining to me…she was definitely not either of those. :)
Jeff says
OMG, Kat. You don’t know about Freaks and Geeks? Please go to Target and buy the season/series DVD stat. Please.
BelovedAimee says
or rent in on netflix…. it is truly a wonderful thing :)
Amy says
Great post! I have had a similar situation and it is never fun to feel rejected when you reach out. It gives you a feeling that no one should have to feel.
This is my first time linking up on your writers workshop and I love it!! I will be definitely be joining in again!
lisa, too! says
Wow! I’m sure it happens more often than we all would like to believe. But maybe, just maybe… she was too sad when it happened, and she couldn’t handle bringing those feelings up again. Maybe… the contact and the apology, along with the explanation was closure enough for her. You made the effort, and that took strength and pride. Good for you. Some people just aren’t ready…
Spike says
Pleasing you should think of sohitmeng like that
Rachel {at} Mommy Needs a Vacation says
Very thought provoking post. I def. have some past friends like this. I think it was brave of you to even contact her. She doesn’t know what she is missing ~ you could be making her laugh every day!
JDaniel4's Mom says
I don’t understand why she wouldn’t want to meet and catch up. It was so generous of you to reach out and let her know you were sorry.
Jenny says
Wow really she would not meet up for one conversation. At least you tried though and that counts towards your character :)
Mama Kat says
Well…she did talk to me online quite a bit. Maybe the pressure to sit down and talk one on one was too much?
Peg says
I was so NOT expecting that ending. I guess some people don’t need closure. I have had some people refuse to freind me because of some slight that may have happened over 35 years ago. I say to them: Get over it and deal with it!
stephanie says
wow… kinda makes me think she’s a big fat liar.
or maybe she just doesn’t like coffee?
how bizarre. and sad. :(
Liz says
I think this is so sad, probably because my similar experience had a different outcome.
Sharon says
Isn’t it interesting how some people come into our lives and are our “lifeline” for a time. It’s almost like the reason for them to be there is outgrown. Yet, because of who they were, what they gave us, and how much of a difference they made in our lives, we reserve a special place for them.
I love that you tried to reconnect. It is sad that she couldn’t respond and be there for you. This is a lovely post with serious depth. Thanks for sharing.
Sandra Kent says
Friendships do change us. I had a friend in 7th grade who I would like to reconnect with. We did everything together and had a fascination with roller coasters. I remember we went to the State Fair of Texas and rode the oldest wooden coaster in the world. We had so much fun screaming our heads off. It does make me sad you couldn’t reconnect with your friend. Maybe if she reads your blog she can see the friendship you had meant something. I asked the question on my community what is the key to a lasting friendship?
Kristy says
This post captured the complexity of friendships and the feelings behind them. Sometimes things just aren’t that simple.
Vicarious Chelsea says
It’s so sad when any relationship changes, but clearly some relationships aren’t meant to be forever. I’m glad you had her in your life when you needed her!
Beautiful post :)
jackie says
This made me sad because I chose the same prompt, but my result was the complete opposite. It would’ve broken my heart if my friend hadn’t wanted to see me again especially since I was the reason why our friendship ended.
Leslie Limon says
I’m so sorry your story ended that way. I wrote about the same thing, with a much more unhappier ending. (Hugs!)
Carri says
She was meant to be a part of your life back then, but not now. I had a similar experience just recently and sure, it hurts, but look at everything life has given you since she’s been gone!
Dominique @Dominique's Desk says
I too had such experiences. I treat it as those who are meant to stay will stick around.
Sarah says
What a beautiful post. I agree…there are some people that I still think about too. I’m pretty sure that many of them don’t think of me. I’ve managed to reconnect with a few people that I had no other means of connecting w/ after years of separation….but in most cases it hasn’t gotten us as close as we once were.
Becky @ Accidental Southern Mama says
It is amazing how episodes like these help to shape who we become. I would give my eyeteeth to know why my Siamese twin stopped speaking to me.
ElizOF says
What a lovely story… Sure, there is only so much technology can do for relationships… At least you were able to chat; albeit briefly, and move on… :-)
Eliz
Dawn says
I just wanted to tell you my 9 year son and I watched a couple of your vlogs this morning. One was you singing in the car and he says, “She has a really good voice, Momma.” He liked the other vlog where the video is split and you are singing the same song wearing different wigs. He thought it was really cool how you could coordinate that video. :-)
michelle says
I totally get this. I had a similar friendship….and some of that emotion still lingers and I feel so silly b/c over a decade later maybe it shouldn’t.
but it does.
BelovedAimee says
you know what they say…. people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. sometimes it’s not always the one we hope for.
<3
Maggie Mallard says
What a beautiful story you shared here with all of us. Your right about linking to someone from the past which is so easy now with our internets. Sometimes things or people are best left in the past.
Keep writing
Maggie
SprigBlossoms says
Thanks for sharing this beautifully written story : ) I recently discovered your blog and subscribed to RSS feed from…
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Helen says
That was a beautiful story! And I love the picture choices, they go so well!!
nicole says
Thanks for this workshop. I’m trying to write more, not just throw stuff on the blog. I chose a prompt not on the list, but from the prompt page. Thanks again!
Oh, and I always wonder what it would be like to re-connect with people that I lost touch with in less-than-friendly circumstances. I think I’ll just keep wondering. ;)
Alexandra says
I’m thinking she’s still hurt, the way she doesn’t want to connect with you.
How strange that is, that she wouldn’t want to meet.
I don’t get it, I would’ve opened myself up again.
If things are resolved for her, then what is she avoiding?